Now, I’m the last person you should ever ask about jobs or anything related to it. Not only have I not worked a day in my life, but I also haven’t even applied for a job or even thought of having a part-time job. It’s not that I’m rich or anything, I’m just lazy. Now, seeing as I have to look for a job for my OJT this coming summer, I think I ought to rethink my beliefs about the workplace.
Being a “job virgin” so to speak, I learned a lot from what we have discussed this Saturday. I thought job interviews were easy as pie, they are not. Personally, I can just speak my way through a regular interview, or so I thought until Sir Barry told us about companies who give these so-called “Targeted Selection Interviews” or interviews in which the interviewer specifically wants to hear actual events, not just those stupid Miss Universe questions that most other “lesser” companies have. I was dumbfounded to say the least. Not only do I have to face some random guy I don’t even know drilling me with questions, I also have to answer him honestly and appropriately with a S.T.A.R.* response. What a great idea for someone like me.
Frankly, I don’t think I have a S.T.A.R. under my belt. I’m just being honest. I’m a member in my org, I don’t do anything, I’m not a problem solver, I’m not as smart as those other folks out there. Where the hell is my freakin edge? Then I thought of J.K. Rowling. What the hell? J effing K Rowling? Yes, J.K. Rowling, and her speech for the Harvard graduates I read for our Anthro 185 class. She talked about failure, of all things, and how that failure made her appreciate what she had, and what she can do. I guess, in a way, that is my edge. The fact that i wasted a year of my college life and got dismissed, the way my parents shouted at me for not doing what I’m supposed to do, these things are my advantage. These college graduates graduating on time and having high grades would hardly know what it feels like for everyone of your friends; your batchmates, march on that stage, while you’re in the audience wishing that you could have been there. I know how that would feel. I know how it feels for everyone else to be already starting their research for their respective theses, while I’m just starting to learn what the hell am I supposed to write in a thesis. All these things, are my advantage.
Am I crazy? I don’t think so, but hear me out here. I have felt the stench of failure more than anyone in my batch, and I have realized I am not easily fazed by things like that. If I fall down, I know I can get back up. If there’s a problem I can’t deal with, I know there are people out there who can help me. And I realized there are enough people who still believe that I can do anything so long as I put my mind to it. These things I would not have learned and these experiences I would not have if I weren’t a “failure”. Sure I have regrets, anyone who has failed always has regrets, but what matters is what you’ve learned about yourself and from that experience, what you’ve learned about other people. They say that you learn more from failing that from success, I can attest to that. It taught me more than what other people could give as advice and what I could read from books. Now I don’t advice anyone to fail just so you learn from it, that’s just stupid. What I’m saying is, don’t be afraid of failure, embrace it, accept it as a part of life. If you don’t get that job you want, something else is waiting for you. You had to repeat a big part of your thesis research? Think of it as a way to improve your thesis. You failed to graduate on time? Think of it as more time to understand your course and to learn as much as you can from your professors. The glass is never half-empty, it’s always half-full to those who choose to see it that way.
*Situation/Task, Action, Result – S.T.A.R.